If your relationships are anything other than societally-prescribed monogamy, you will undoubtedly encounter unique gifts and challenges.

A therapist or coach who has expertise and who “gets” this aspect of your life can be crucial, whether you’re seeking direct relationship support or support in other sectors of your life.

As you well know, there is no one way to “do” consensual non-monogamy (CNM). This life path provides ongoing opportunities for discovery, navigation, and negotiation with self and other.

Partnering with your emotions instead of fighting them can be a powerful key in shifting patterns—acting based on choice rather than on knee-jerk reactions. This way of orienting to our relationships can shake us CNM folks to our core. We can be shown not only our self-at-best, but our self-at-worst. Rather than shunning our self-at-worst, that part of us instead needs to be tended to with curiosity: recognized, tolerated, supported, and soothed.

For many folks, the CNM learning curve is much slower and much less linear than they’d prefer. Their ideals and their actual human reactions don’t line up all the time.

I love supporting CNM folks in normalizing, accepting, and working with where they actually are in their process rather than where they theoretically are or where they wish they were. Together we can:

• Slow down and track big emotions, building tolerance and staying in the present moment.

• Celebrate moments of joy, success, and the rewards you’re reaping from life as a CNM person.

• Problem solve navigating the monogamous world and the complexities of managing multiple relationships with partners and metas.